“When we choose Should, we’re choosing to live our life for someone or something other than ourselves. The journey to Should can be smooth, the rewards can seem clear, and the options are often plentiful.
Must is different. Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. It’s that which calls to us most deeply. It’s our convictions, our passions, our deepest held urges and desires — unavoidable, undeniable, and inexplicable. Unlike Should, Must doesn’t accept compromises.
Must is when we stop conforming to other people’s ideals and start connecting to our own — and this allows us to cultivate our full potential as individuals. To choose Must is to say yes to hard work and constant effort, to say yes to a journey without a road map or guarantees, and in so doing, to say yes to what Joseph Campbell called “the experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance within our innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.” – Elle Luna
I found this quote on Maria Popova’s, Brain Pickings, a website that I visit everyday.
Image: The Tunnel at the End of the Light by Viewminder via Flickr.
I agree with this, I love that site too. Something I’m trying to work on is to stop “shoulding” myself; in particular on things that happened in the past. It links with regret and guilt for things you can’t change. Causes unnecessary stress that leads to an unbalanced and unhealthy mental state. I’ve gotten a lot better and part of it is acceptance and forgiveness, letting things go. I feel like must looks more towards the future and is more of an initiating term. Great quote Rudri! Have a great weekend -Iva
The past is often hard to reconcile and I agree, it causes unnecessary stress that we tend to bring on ourselves. I wear a necklace that says, “Let Go,” to constantly remind myself of not holding on to things that aren’t healthy for me. Hope you had a great Mother’s Day, Iva. xo
Love this. I am getting more in tune to my musts and less in tune to the shoulds.
It is important reminder to make a list of those musts to live the life that we intend. xo