Ask Yourself: Who Has Earned the Right to Hear My Story?

by | May 28, 2015 | Thursday Musing | 7 comments

Squares, circles and lines. Oh My!

“Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?” If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.”

Brene Brown

Image: Squares, Circles and lines. Oh My! by Kenny Louie via Flickr.

7 Comments

  1. Dana
    Dana on May 28, 2015 at 4:52 am

    This is a wonderfully wise quote, Rudri. Have you read her books? If so, which one would you recommend starting with?

    • Rudri
      Rudri on June 1, 2015 at 9:05 am

      Dana:

      I love her books. I recommend reading Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection. Both have material that offer insightful tips on vulnerability and navigating insecurity. Her TED talks are equally impressive. I hope you check out her work and let me know what you think.

  2. Nina
    Nina on May 28, 2015 at 1:05 pm

    Love this and will save it to share some time in my friendship column. It’s spot on. Thank you!

    • Rudri
      Rudri on June 1, 2015 at 9:06 am

      Oh, thanks, Nina! I am glad you liked it.

  3. Robin
    Robin on May 28, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    I love Brene Brown. I recently shared my story with someone. When you find that someone who loves you, warts and all, you can tell them anything. Very few people get that privilege. I am always honored when someone entrusts me with their story.

    • Rudri
      Rudri on June 1, 2015 at 9:09 am

      I agree, Robin. You should carefully choose who has the privilege to listen to your story. It might take many years to find that certain someone, but when you do, it is a welcome refuge. Always good to see you in this space. xo

  4. Tiffany
    Tiffany on June 10, 2015 at 4:53 am

    I love Brene!